Todays’ New Year’s Eve.and thoughts go to.. Will I be here next year?
Does that sound negative? Depends on your frame of mind.
I have just spent the day on holiday in Antigua with my man and strangers. I laughed, contemplated, was just pain lazy, and looked dreamily at my bear hoping for many ,ore days, years like this.
I don’t feel sad. I feel over overwhelmed. I’m not scared of dying. I’m not sad if I died and had no more. But I be sad not spending every waking hour with the love of my life and the opportunity of what could be. Wouldn’t you?
We chatted over our extensive Caribbean lunch about what I am afraid of. I’m afraid of pain and not having quality of life. Pete pointed out that as long as I felt the most love and that as long as I wasn’t really struggling for breathe for example that every single living moment was worth it even if I was bloated on steroids and riddled with tumours.
It doesn’t matter any way. I keep having dreams or even lucid dreams of someone with powers looking at me and seeing inside me and seeing the cells of cancer like those sea particles that light up like luminous fireflies. They can see them leaving my body.
I have to be honest, as usual. I haven’t felt well. I’ve experienced sickness and giddiness every day. I’ve been sick most days and I’ve been off my food. It’s boring really. It’s upsetting not knowing why. But today has been good. I haven’t been sick. I have felt giddy but not too bad. I have been good not drinking alcohol and eating healthily, as I can.
So today is the final day of 2014. I’m not the sort to dwell or to plan huge for the future. I always have to lot to reflect on and be grateful for and I love planning for the future.
I’m sat here on our balcony, welling up with tears again. Goodness knows I’ve been doing it for days.. Tears of happiness actually. I have had a few secret cries through despair but I didn’t want to stress Pete anymore than I have . He already worries and loses sleep every time my head hurts and sickness occurs. We try to turn a positive spin on it but fear creeps in and the impending doom lingers over our heads. But todayI feel better again. I have stopped the supplements again. I can’t stomach them. I feel rank. Full stop.
Right now the sun has set and I’m hoping the little Mosquitos bugger off long enough to enjoy my time listening to Joni Mitchell and dancing with my Bear in his arms.
We’ve had a great afternoon shaking our booties to some dodgy tunes, swimming in the sea, bouncing on a sea trampoline and eating in the best restaurant on the island. The kindness, happiest people are here. I’m filled with love and in fact we spent the afternoon on Jacqui O’s Love Beach. Couldn’t have been named better.
So what does tonight bring? Australia are in 2015 and the UK are not far off it.
We are hours away and as usual I could easily go to bed.. Sleep and me are still best friends.
We will spend it on our own. No need for anyone else. No frills, spills or gimmicks. I only ever want to be near my favourite people. My favourite Bear. The rock, my love and my one who will continue to carry me through the tough times ahead. We still believe I will be NED. We still think our own baby is possible and we will carry on living like there is no tomorrow.
Let’s face it do you know what you would do with you last day on this earth?
Today could be it. I’m not sorry. I never will be. I cry a lot.
I cry because I can’t believe I’m so lucky. I cry because I will miss it all. I cry because I have so much to give. I cry because no one knows how good life is if they haven’t lived in my shoes.
So what’s next?
The usual. Continue doing what I’m doing. I may have been off the radar a lot but I don’t feel like journaling when I’m ill. I don’t like to draw attention to illness. I don’t want you to have to feel sorry for me. I’m not asking for attention. And I know it can be boring and depressing dragging on about my minor ailments.
My biggest hope for 2015 is to feel happy, healthy and full of beans! I turn 40 in 2015… Not older but much wiser!
We have lots of things we want to do and I’ll reveal them once we have mapped them out over our bottle of champers later tonight.
But right now, I want to say 2014 has been immense. Better than expected. Despite the brain tumours, the surgery, the numerous vaccinations, the disappointments and let downs, the highs, the lows. What stands out? My support.
My wonderful friends, my supporters from all over the world that give me strength to keep going, my family who are in pain too and my ultimate, 100% Rock of a husband, Peter, Bear….. Life doesn’t get better than this.
I’m never alone. And I can’t thank you enough for that.
Life doesn’t get any better than this. But if it can please God please make 2015 our year! Triple negative gals need a bloody life line. And if 2015 isn’t the year this happens just know that I’m not going anywhere without a fight!
2015- bring it on!!!!!